Politeness - Costs nothing but can buy everything

One thing that I always try to do throughout my dealings with people is to remain polite, and where appropriate, chivalrous. I have found over the years that doing so can not only leave me with a sense of well being but also that it can pave the way for opening doors in the future. I really do believe that if more people could master the art of being polite and where appropriate chivalrous then we could make life a little more pleasant for everyone.

It's not actually that hard to do, although quite a lot of people do seem to have problems for some reason. I am not sure why people find it so difficult and who, if anyone, is to blame. Maybe we have just become so wrapped up in our own lives that we've forgotten how. Also, if no-one congratulates you or compliments you on being so polite when you are younger, or if they are not polite or chivalrous in return then you start to think "what's the point" and don't bother with it. Because no-one is polite to you, you're not polite to anyone else and so it continues.

This is why I always make a point of trying to be polite myself. Every time I say thank you, or hold the door for someone, or pick something up for someone when their arms are full, I am throwing a stone. That stone may simply bounce off of the ignorance of some people but with others it'll land in the pond of their subconscious and as the ripples push out into their conscious mind, maybe they'll try it too and then more stones are thrown and the ripple spreads from there.

My parents taught me to "Mind my P's and Q's" and soon found that I liked being told I was "such a polite little boy", especially when that was followed up by being given a sweet. Or later the the smile it may get me from an attractive lady. Because I know that I like to be thanked for doing something or being chivalrous I always make a point of being thankful myself when I am the beneficiary.

Basic chivalry is easy too; you don't have to be a knight on a charger either. Simply hold the door for someone, if a door opens toward you and allow them to pass first. If someone has their arms full and they drop something, help them to pick it up. It really is simple stuff!

It means "The Way"

Hi,

I don't know what really gave me the impetus to start a blog. I suppose it was partly so I had the chance to Rant on about things and how I think the world should try and be without having to force other people to listen to it who didn't want to, as I hate it when people do that to me. So I guess this is really going to be my take on life and how I go through it, a kind of "The Way of Chappy" thing.

This is where Chappy Do came from. The 'Do' (pronounced 'Doe' as in female deer) is used in the Japanese sence, from the likes of Karate-Do and it means "The Way", so 'Chappy Do' means "The Way of Chappy". I'm going to blog about the rules or guidelines that I use to see me through the day and also to have a damn fine whinge then things really get on my nerves. So if you do bother to read it, and you like what you see then great. If you read it and thinks it's a load of arse then great again, at least your forming and opinion.